talk to your mother, open the windows, and forgive some one today.
Anonymous asked: Do you consider yourself a feminist?
It depends on how you define feminist. :)
I believe women are equal and should be treated as such. In the same sense, I believe women are different and need to be recognized and celebrated for their differences. I am a working woman in the corporate world. I have also traveled to many places where I have seen the hurt of women worldwide who have been bullied and abused. So yes, I will promote the importance and value of women forever.
With anything, there are lots of things I like about feminism. And there are lots of yucky, hateful parts of it. I disagree with male bashing and with using our femininity to bring down masculinity. We should never have to tear down someone else in order to elevate ourselves. That shows just blatant disrespect and does not speak the voice of equality and love, but the voice of anger and pride. Pride seeks to be better than others, so prideful feminism cannot possibly promote equality.
When I was younger, you could have probably called me more of a feminist. I scoffed when Ryan opened doors for me and made fun of him when he was overly sweet…blaming it on his thinking I was the weaker sex. As I got older, I learned that this was completely ridiculous and actually would wound Ryan and hurt our relationship tremendously. Pride cannot be an agent of change. As I got older, I learned to celebrate our differences as equally unique. When Ryan cherishes me, I respect and honor him. When I respect and honor him, he cherishes me. It is a circle that must be cultivated. We are different, but we equally must give something to the other.
I believe that, just as it is common for us to think men objectify us sexually, is also just as common for girls to objectify a guy for what he can emotionally give her. There is so much hurt in the heart of women for the way they have been treated in history. And I don’t disagree with that. I am usually the first person to shake a man’s hand and introduce myself, the firmest advocate for women in the workplace, and having a fair say in things, and being equally represented in all realms of life.
But on the other hand, there is also so much hurt in the heart of men who have heard the words “nasty, horny, insensitive, angry, bossy, unemotional, and basically an incapable of deep intimacy meat head” for most of their lives. I’m sick of that stereotype too and I will never ever support that.
We are all broken in some way or another….we all have wounds…we all get labeled into stereotypes. It’s time we loved without measure….a kind of sacrificial love that bypasses stereotypes and sees the heart of a human being for being uniquely made and ridiculously beautiful. Everyone is worth that. I just want to give love. I don’t want to yell for causes, or hold up angry picket signs, or rant at how a man disrespected me…..I want to be an active part of the change by loving and loving and loving and loving and loving and loving….no if, ands, or buts. I will promote that forever.
I would like to add a side note - this love doesn’t mean you can’t take action if you are for promoting feminism or if you truly believe in a certain type of activism….it just means that you represent a balanced perspective and consider all people so worthy and of value. Even in the face of anger and hate, I believe change can only ever happen out of this chosen love for our fellow men and women.
Just my thoughts. It’s ok if you disagree. My ideas aren’t written in stone…they are just my personal experiences from the things I’ve lived. I hope that helps. <3